before/after

Friday, April 16, 2010

Before I left for spring break, I finished the body of the foldover cowl pullover. Anxious to see what it looked like, I tried it on and was instantly disappointed.
It may be hard to see from this photo, but it is a bit big. Big in a boxy sort of way. I wore it around the house like this and the look grew on me. I was thinking that perhaps I liked it. Perhaps I liked it big and boxy. Perhaps I needed a big and boxy sweater. I decided to pack it in my suitcase and ask my mother for her advice.

Fast forward to the last evening of our trip. My mother made herself a cocktail, grabbed a beer for me and told me we were heading to the beach. "Bring your sweater", she said. "Your going to rip it out."
And so that is what I did. My mother was right. (Again.) That sweater is meant to be on the fitted side. I'll be much happier in the end. And with my mother by my side, a beer in my hand, sitting on the beach, it took the sting out of it a little. (A whole lot.)
Have a terrific weekend!

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73 comments

  1. eeeek! i love(d) it!! i like the boxy look with a long sleeve t underneath!! you probably could have felted it a tiny bit?

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  2. I ripped a few things out today myself, although none were at the finished stage. I'm sure you'll make something beautiful out of that yarn yet!

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  3. Wow! Your mom is awesome! If you've got to rip a sweater, that's a great way to do it.

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  4. Well at least the hard part's over.

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  5. I just started following you and am a fairly new knitter (can count my projects on one hand). I just finished my first sock..it is big and slouchy. I might just get a vodka and orange juice and sit outside in the sun for a bit of ripping myself :) Excellent celebration while so much effort disappears back into a ball.

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  6. lastms@centurytel.net4/16/2010

    you are very confident to tear it out but your mother was probably right.

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  7. Mother knows best.
    I hope that means you'll give it a try again.
    Sometimes ripping things back is good therapy for knitters.

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  8. You know what? The way you tell us that story, it is so funny! Even though we know that it is so sad to rip a project after working on it so hard...

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  9. Owwwweee. Oh well. It's like pulling off a band-aid. Once you rip it, it's gone.

    Onward and upward!

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  10. Dang, I hate when that happens.

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  11. Moms are always right ;-) It looks like gorgeous yarn! It deserves no doubt! Have a wonderful weekend too!

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  12. That's all part of this wonderful hobby, it's one that gives us a chance for a "do over".... rip away...

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  13. I agree that the boxy and t-shirt look was great, a bit of light felting and voila....and LOL at 'do-over'. I like to 'do-over' just not on the same project :-) Good on you for being brave and what a perfect setting for frogging!

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  14. Moms are great like that. Tell you what you need to hear and support you to make it happen.

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  15. Anonymous4/17/2010

    great!!your mother is on the right way.and you will be happy with the sweater,when it fits!!!
    I wished,I had a mother to drink a beer at the beach and rib,rib and talk to
    ;-)) astrid (from germany)

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  16. Oh Leslie, you actually make ripping sound like fun when you put it like that. I love the thought of a straight talking, cocktail drinking mother.

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  17. yeah, I wish my mum would sometimes be as straight with me as that. I think the boxy look looked ok, when I'm thin it makes me feel thinner, doesn't work if I'm carrying any weight though. You can pull it off.

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  18. What a great ripping story.... and what a rocking mama you have :)

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  19. Love your mom! A beer would help a frogging session...so would the lovely beach.

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  20. OMG! Your mom sounds like a fabulous woman. Honest opinion, but in the best way possible. Not like my mom (or "Crush" as we call her). And, of course, she was right!

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  21. Yeah, I know, ripping something out is really hard, but it's better than never wearing the garnment that you made. That used to happen to me :(. Good luck with the new knit!

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  22. You and your mom have a special relationship. I hope the next version of the sweater fits the bill exactly as you hoped.

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  23. I definitely think frogging is easier when there is sand, sun, and beer!

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  24. Yay for mom! Because who needs big and boxy? Though nothing looks big and boxy on you, of course! It's such a pretty color, too - you're gonna love it in th end!

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  25. Good story. Sweet mom with sage viewpoint. But I have to say before I got to the ripping out part...I was planning on sending you my address and postage. I think it would have fit. HA!

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  26. sometimes you just have to frog. it happens to us all, but I'm so jealous that you had the beach, your mom, and some drinks to ease the pain!!

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  27. Good for you to be so brave! I just ripped out 8000 stitches, but that is nothing and I still felt the pain of doing so. I love what the sweater promises to look like (in that color, on that pattern) when you do finish.

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  28. The beach and a beer can make any bad situation better!! Gi

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  29. Oh dear. well, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!

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  30. Your mom is the greatest. Beer and beach and ripped yarn indeed!

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  31. What a great way to turn that into an enjoyable task! Mom's are so smart!!

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  32. So sad to rip it out, but it will definitely look better on you more fitted! Can't wait to see the yarn reincarnated.

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  33. which helped take the sting out more? mom or the beer? haha! moms know best...and you are too pretty to hide in something so big- if you want boxy wear a fleece or sweatshirt! if you work hard and knit something it should be wonderful!

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  34. I just LOVE the relationship that you have with your Mom!! My own sweet Mama passed away when I was in college and whenever I hear about someone who has a special relationship with their mom it just absolutely warms my heart. ♥

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  35. mums always know best! That is so cool that you can go to here for knitting advise. I love that my mum can help me with my knitting and sewing. She is always so helpful giving me little tips and things.

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  36. And to think I just have to rip things out sitting here in my house. I am sure it will be lovely what ever you make out of it next.

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  37. I adore your mom! Beer and the shore -- a perfect way to make a sad task into a happy one :-)

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  38. Mrs.Platypus4/18/2010

    It was the brave thing to do, and I'm sure the beer helped as well. I raise my glass to a better sweater the second time around.

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  39. Mothers are good at giving advice, aren't they? :)

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  40. I really liked the boxy look on you, but it matters not what others think but what you think and what you will be comfortable in. Your Mom has a great ingredient for frogging projects!!!

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  41. yes, a beer, always helps for times like this. Wishing you luck on whatever that yarn will become in the future.

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  42. mom's are so good for the frogging episodes in life aren't they?

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  43. I think you look darling, but the way you described your mom's honesty seemed pretty special--I'd have ripped it out too. Cheers.

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  44. sorry you had to rip it out...the color is still beautiful

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  45. A good mother is a treasure beyond price, and you've got one.

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  46. probably the right choice (not that it didn't look adorable in the photo you posted) -- glad you had a beer with you! :)

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  47. can I borrow your mom from time to time?

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  48. You know what they say...a bad day at the beach is better than the best day at work. We don't believe that in our house, any day at the beach is great. I have ripped the project I am working on now 4 times. The first time I ripped it I was three rows from finished. I like to think this saves me money and I ALWAYS learn something. Can't wait to see it done, everything you knit is beautiful.

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  49. Those mothers...they really do know best, don't they?! And if you had to rip, that sounds like the way to do it.

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  50. I love that your mom knows you so well that when she says "you're ripping out your sweater," you do it.

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  51. Yep! Mom's do know best! And she knew you'd need a beer to make it a little easier!!!! Love that for you :)

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  52. You go girl! I think I love your Mom!

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  53. I love the basic shape of the top before you ripped it out. Definitely too big for you, but a great shape for a little girls dress (appropriately downsized so it doesn't fall off the shoulders).

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  54. Those moms...they know us so well, don't they?

    Wisdom given in love.

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  55. I want your mom!

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  56. Man, I HATE frogging, but your story was lovely - what an awesome Mom - and the picture of the yarn balls with the ocean in the back ground was wonderful!

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  57. liberating isn't it? I love ripping things out, 'specially at the beach with a beer!

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  58. Love the color and the yarn, but Mum was right. It will be a far, far better sweater when properly fitted.

    PS. Didn't know you were a beer fan. I knew I liked you!

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  59. I love your mom! I wish mine could be that direct with her language.

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